The intended audience is different for each poem; in "To My Dear and Loving Husband," the poet is speaking directly to her husband as opposed to making a more declarative statement as we see in "How Do I Love Thee. This difference does not diminish the effect of either poem but it is significant when examining strategy.
We can look at Bradstreet's poem as more personal in that she might not have intended this poem for public consumption and even if she did, she still chose to address her husband http://pinsoftek.com/wp-content/custom/newspeak/the-joy-luck-club-identity.php, giving him all of her attention. Bradstreet's poem is also composed with a mood and tone of humility, indicating that the love she shares with her husband is invaluable.]
I am final, I am sorry, but, in my opinion, it is obvious.
I consider, that you are mistaken.
I can ask you?